if you can, why worry? if you cannot, why worry?

Worry, tension, anxiety, fear how so ever you may call, it is the biggest and the most harmful disease a person suffers from and as any other sickness it indeed is futile. I know it’s not aggravated by us nor do we force ourselves into worrying, it is a natural phenomenon that everybody goes through. But Why Worry? Will it help or make things better in any case? Analysing human abilities, there are two possible outcomes to any problem we face - at the end it will be solved or in the worst case, we wont be able to overcome the same. So the point is, if we have the ability to solve a certain problem then why worry? as we know we can do it and if we don't have the ability to do so, why worry? It won’t help you get out of the trouble. Sit back, relax and see what fate has in store for you.

When people worry they actually tend to predict future and foresee adverse aspects of the given situation. First thing it does it break your moral down, you lose your senses and get into a state of panic as you see negative force driving you. In crisis what you need is calm – cool headed decisions made at the best of your ability which is already a remote idea as you are surrounded by worries. So instead of having your adrenaline run faster, leading to better results, it rather slows down and things eventually end up getting worse than what was thought. Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry: Worry never fixes anything. This brings me to a very interesting fact once stated by Robert Frost as he said – ‘the reason why worry kills more people than work is that more people worry than work.’ So if one is going through a patchy time, s/he should rather try and calm oneself and seek for a probable solution than worrying for the outcome. Every situation is created and ultimately is solved by a man. I don’t know about the rest but we taureans believe that ‘there is nothing that a man can do better than me’. I don’t say it’s true, I don’t say taureans are super-humans, but the belief that we can overcome the situation does help. As the legend says man is the only animal, smart enough to build the empire state building and foolish enough to jump off it. So the choice is yours. Believe in yourself that you can do it and if not be smart enough to leave it for the life to handle the situation but don’t be the foolish one to keep worrying about the outcome when it’s not in your hand to influence the result.

To sum it up I would like to quote the light Irish philosophy which says –

There are only two things to worry about:

Either you are well or you are sick.

If you are sick,
Then there are only two things to worry about:
Either you will get well or you will die.

If you get well,
Then there is nothing to worry about.

If you die,
Then there are only two things to worry about:
Either you will go to heaven or hell.

If you go to heaven, there is nothing to worry about.

But if you go to hell,
You'll be so damn busy shaking hands with friends
You won't have time to worry!

A cute love story

I was walking past the kelvingrove park on this bright sunny day (a rare one in Glasgow),  and suddenly came across a bunch of toddlers playing ‘relay’ (a game where you grab a stick, run down to your group mate and pass it on the him/her, then this person passes on to the next and so on). They were probably having a play class during school hours and were accompanied by a couple of teachers. The game was going good and was quite fun to watch those kids running around the park, having fun.

Amidst this there was a cute little boy standing in the middle of the second team and was constantly talking to a girl right behind him. With just two or three more players in front of him, he was anxiously waiting for his turn to come when he could exhibit his athletics. Finally it was his turn and all he had to do was to firmly grasp the stick – run hard to the finishing pole - run back – and pass on the stick to the girl and become the hero. 

He was prepared to give his best and make an impression. With full confidence, he grabbed on to the stick, and ran with all the energy he had. Usan Bolt in the making. Touched the finishing pole and turned about in style. His confidence boosted up to the seventh heaven as he looked straight and that girl was blasting her tonsils off shouting “faster Peter, faster”. May be just tried too much or just a bad luck I would say, unfortunately his ankle bent and the next moment he was lying heads down on the ground. This was probably the most disheartening sight I had seen in ages. The lad was shattered. He couldn’t believe what just happened. He was so very ashamed of the fact that he couldn’t make it and perhaps because of him the girl might lose out the game. He lay there on the ground for about thirty seconds or may be more and was at his wits end. Finally one of the teachers had to come for the rescue, as she pulled him up and passed on the stick to the next player.

Poor little chap, quietly walked back to his position as the game continued. He could not look into the girl’s eyes anymore as he had let her down. She came by stood behind him, tried to console but he was too shattered. Don’t know if they played again or not. But I am sure the next chance he gets, would be the best performance ever made by a person. I wish I am there to witness the moment when he wins the game and can cling on to his princess. ;)

because the heart has a mind of its own

Theoretically brain is the think tank of a person. All important decisions that affect our lives in any form are taken only after we have consulted your brain several times. This is because, generally brain is considered to be more sensible and an organ that analyses all sides of an aspect. All said right, but there is another part of our system which has the capacity to take decisions – The Heart. It is more sensitive, brisk and takes decision based on emotions. May be this is why people don’t trust the verdict of their heart. But at times decisions should be taken based more on emotions than on logic. Being impulsive and doing what the heart wants without giving a chance to the brain to present its opinion can be fatal but then the heart has a brain of its own. If it says something it surely has applied some thought process behind it.

When the heart takes a decision, it combines all your sentiments and tells you what you actually want to do and not what should be done. Following your heart’s judgment gives you a win – win situation. Now this can be explained in a simple way. When you follow an opinion on a certain aspect there can be two possible outcomes – either the decision thus made works in your favour or it backfires. Now the question is, what will give us more comparative satisfaction?

	Succeed	Miss out
Listening to what brain says	V V V X X	X X X X X
Listening to what heart says	V V V V V	X  X X V V

                  X = sad            
                  V = happy 

If we analyse the above matrix we discover some strange but strangely true facts. The first striking feature of the study is even if we succeed and in the best possible circumstance when everything falls in place as we had planned, it still doesn’t give us a complete satisfaction. This is because, somewhere deep within, we are sad for we couldn’t do what we wanted to or what the Heart had suggested. On the contrary, succeeding whilst listening to your heart gives a complete satisfaction and pleasure as you got to do what you wanted and achieved your goal simultaneously. Also while executing the work; it is more like fulfilling your hobby than doing a certain task which could be tedious otherwise. Again, if we consider the other possibility, that is, backfiring of the plan, it does show diversified results. Missing out on the desired result can be fatal if followed the mind, on the other hand, even if we fail to achieve the objective, following our emotional side, we somehow feel happy for the fact that we at least did what our inner self wanted us to do.

Considering this opportunity cost, listening to your sentimental self, driven by flow of emotions, can do a world of good to your confidence and self-belief alongside with providing an emotional and ‘mental’ satisfaction. So the next time you are making an important decision you know who can give you the best opinion.